Birthday Chaos & Learning to be Present

Recently there has been a lot of discussion about the idea of an unplugged wedding.

Horror photos of guests standing up in the aisle and blocking the photographer during the first kiss, people sticking their ipads up in the air obstructing views, the glow of cell phones lighting up a dimly lit church, and photos of brides walking down the aisle with everyone looking at her through their phones instead of taking it all in and looking directly at her. It’s an idea/issue I will write a post about at some point, but the main thought is that technology, and the cameras that are at everyone’s fingertips are not only getting in the way of professionals doing their jobs, but also interfering with the guests ability to just be present.

This issues is something I have some pretty strong feelings about. I feel that sometimes that piece of technology between you and reality is a roadblock between you and the emotions of the moment. But guess what… this doesn’t JUST apply to weddings. I had to take a step back and re-evaluate how I act when I am a guest at an event. The weddings I have been a guest at recently, I’ve left my camera at home and my cell phone in my purse, but what about family gatherings?

This weekend our niece turned two. Now that we don’t live in the same town (or state) as our family anymore, the time we get to spend with them is condensed to little weekend get-togethers and holidays. Sleep becomes less of a priority, because late night conversations and early morning cuddle time with the monsters are some of the best moments in life. As a photographer I find myself WANTING to capture every moment, but as a family member, who wants to experience everything as it happens, I  am realizing that is is important that I put the camera down so I am able to be enjoy the here and now instead of standing on the sideline capturing it all.

Sunday I was able to do that – with caring less about the perfect composition of a photo and more about experiencing the moment first and capturing it second, I was able to completely take in all of the chaos that is an 8:00 am second birthday party.

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Take it all in – the pure joy of being two and feeling ecstatic about every gift you open… there is no way this won’t make you smile.

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My husband is under this pile of children … somewhere.

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  • cassandra - Ah, B. This just confirms we are soul sisters! Such a great post, and I so needed to read this. I, too, with my nephew feel so much more anxiety when I’m constantly blocking my face and emotions of his demeanor, than when I put it away and soak it all in. I just may have to write a post about this myself, since you’ve completely inspired me to let go of technology and focus on grabbing the tangible. You’re amazing mama!ReplyCancel

  • Tracy Hundertmark Lindquist - Britta Hundertmark and Casey Villhauer,

    1.) This made me cry. “Sleep becomes less of a priority, because late night conversations and early morning cuddle time with the monsters are some of the best moments in life.” It was so nice to catch up and laugh on Friday night and Maren loves her Bit-Tah :)

    2) Do you see the picture of Maren’s sippy cup on the bed? This is moments before it left a goose egg on Buc’s forehead…..Bahhahaha.

    3) The one of Gma and Gpa with Char and Hoss is my favorite photo. Of all time. Ever. Thank you :) I kind of wish I could photo shop Mare in :)

    4) Where is MY cake? ;) Not only did CC not get me a cake for my birthday, but I didn’t get any of Hollands!ReplyCancel

  • Kathy Ubben - Love, Love, Love these Gma!!!!
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  • Casey Villhauer - Thank you!ReplyCancel

  • Heather O'Neill - the best
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